Are more young men settling down or just settling?

They are all under thirty and all married. Two are Christians and one claims to be a reformed player who hung up his shoes when he found the right woman. All of these men are in relationships that are less than four years and admit that while they are generally happy, they do sometimes miss the excitement of ‘doing road’. They are nowhere near the seven year itch however being this young one wonders if they were actually prepared for the monotony of domesticity; if being married is all that it promised to be and if in hindsight they felt they should have waited a few more years before settling down.


Do pretty girls have to be domesticated?

Growing up, I was often told the story of a pretty girl who this man fell head over heels in love with and so he married her and whisked her away to his home for them to live happily ever after. That did not happen. Homeboy found out that she not only cannot boil water, but cannot clean, make a bed, wash, iron or hang a curtain. In short order he returned her to her mother’s house with the note “teach your daughter how to be a wife before you unleash you on society.” Ouch!


How to train up your man…

So the other day my friend Sancia tagged me in a Facebook post where a circa 1950s ad was making the rounds about how husbands should train up their wives to be good housekeepers. You and I both know that that was the era of female domesticity and if you couldn’t cook, wash or take care of a bunch of screaming brats, you were seen as deficient and not quite a woman. Praise God that those backwards days are gone….for the most part. Continue reading…