Settling into married life is not without its fair share of surprises, some may even catch you completely off guard as the movies you watched never showed just how much of a slob Prince Charming really is or that the perfect girl next door cannot boil water to save her life.
It may be 2020 but some people still cannot reconcile themselves to the notion that marriage does not mean that one gives up their right to be independence. Being married or in a relationship does not mean that you have to lose yourself or your sense of identity. But try to explain this to some women.
They are all under thirty and all married. Two are Christians and one claims to be a reformed player who hung up his shoes when he found the right woman. All of these men are in relationships that are less than four years and admit that while they are generally happy, they do sometimes miss the excitement of ‘doing road’. They are nowhere near the seven year itch however being this young one wonders if they were actually prepared for the monotony of domesticity; if being married is all that it promised to be and if in hindsight they felt they should have waited a few more years before settling down.
They have four children, 2 dogs and 7 years together and seem reasonably happy. She is the only unmarried one out of her tight quartet of friends but ironically also the one with the least amount of drama, infidelity and fighting in their relationship. Her friends and family keep asking her when her significant other is going to put a ring on it but Marcia* always smile and shrugged off the suggestion that she needs to tie the knot. For her things are perfectly fine the way they are.